Despite what people tell you or what you see on social media, life as a family is not easy!
Everyone says that the first year of anything is the hardest whether thats marriage or babies or whatever it may be. I genuinely believe that.
Finding the balance between social life, home life and mommy life is probably the hardest thing I’ve ever had to do in my life. We have struggled finding the balance which has put us as a couple on rocky paths and in tight situations but I think its important to have good communication so if something is slipping or someone isn’t happy, you are able to sit and talk about it and come up with solutions together.
We are an incredibly shy couple, we don’t take cute candid shots or family selfies, we just aren’t that type of family but that doesn’t mean I don’t wish we were, I would love more pictures of the 3 of us but we just aren’t comfortable with it at all. This is another thing that us as a family has to deal with, I try and get as many pictures of us with Mia as possible for her when she grows up.
We have had to make so many changes to get the perfect routine that fits us. Me and Kyran have to schedule work around childcare so that we have enough hours to work to be able to afford childcare so we can work… its so frustrating but its something we have to do.
We have managed to slowly get the right amount of couple time together that we need again, we had so much more before Mia came along and its so important to make sure we have that time now she is here as well. One thing we haven’t managed to get the right amount of is family time, all 3 of us together time. We have a bunch of things planned for her birthday and loads of time together for that but I think we need to get to a stage where we are constantly having family time so we grow together.
We also have the added stress of moving into a crumbling house. We took a mortgage out on a house in a panic, whilst I was heavily pregnant, we needed a place and this house was in a comfort zone so we chose it. However, this house needs a lot of work and that has to be prioritised at the moment, I have a feeling once all these stressful extras are done we will have a lot more family time.
This post was really just me rambling about the stresses of family life, what I want to happen and what I think is important. I hope you at least enjoyed reading this.